In the workplace, judgment of others often leads to disharmony because people expect others to behave, speak or interact in a certain way. The fact is that we can be divided into different ‘personality styles’; each personality type has different strengths and weaknesses.
Hypothetically speaking, the best possible team would have a combined inventory of all types of personalities, combining the largest variety of strengths to achieve its goals. Members of this team would also need to understand each other’s behavior style in order to better accept each other and maintain positive, productive and profitable relationships.
Accepting others for reasons beyond personality styles, tolerance, and being productive on a team is important because everything is energy. A team’s energy, like all things, can either be expansive or constricting. To be rich is to be expanded.
When we judge others, we criticize their moral behavior as inappropriate. This invites constricting energy into our own being. If we feel that, in order for us to accept and love others unconditionally, they have to be perfect or conform to a certain standard — height, width, color, race, religion, status, and behaviour are just a few examples — we are resisting them, and therefore resisting our own full potential of receiving abundance in the process.
Judgment is a part of some people’s way of life. “Did you see her ugly clothes?”, “His yard is a mess”, or “Her way of communicating is inappropriate” — these fault-finding judgments are negative, waste time, and invite the same negative energy back to you. What you’re really saying is, “I have something negative and it bothers me, so I need to gather evidence of ugliness externally, rather than finding it within.” It’s easier to see it in others where one cannot fix it; such cycles are continuous.
In thoughts of judging or doubting ourselves, we unconsciously invite in constricting energy that stifles our flow or expanse. When we judge ourselves, we don’t feel good enough because we fear how we will be judged by others.
Remember when, in kindergarten or grade school, you created artwork by putting paint on one side of a sheet of paper and folded it in half to create an identical image on the other side? You created a mirror image of your work; similarly, when you judge people for their inadequacies, you create a tainted mirror for yourself. When you judge someone else, you really aren’t rejecting them — you are rejecting the same things and concepts in yourself.
Lift your judgment of others. Let them be them, and you focus on being you.
“All judgement is self-judgement.” ― Paul Richard
Freedom from judgment is peaceful; it is expansive, because it will allow you to be open to giving and receiving your best. Free yourself by loving people as they are so that you can be loved as you are.
“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” ― Mother Teresa
Group hugs and best wishes for an expansion of abundant energy by accepting others,
Penny
p.s. Personality Styles training is a great way to get your team to accept others instantly. Find out more in our Workplace Relationships brochure.
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