Be Disciplined and Be Rich

The most coveted human virtue is self-control, which is synonymous to discipline.  People yearn to possess better discipline, especially when they know it’s power in personal leadership and self-development.  Over my career, I’ve learned that there are professional development strategies that even if taught, don’t get implemented, until foundational personal habits to support them are solid.  Discipline is one of them.  For example, how can I teach or learn time management skills if I cannot first make and keep commitments?

At the beginning of this year the theme was about planning.  Goal setting, strategic and even personal planning ideas, tips and strategies were shared with you.  We are now entering the second quarter of the year.  Are you on track with your goals?  Of course, if you want to be more disciplined, you must be clear on what result you’re looking for.

Based on your goals, how are you doing?  Are you on track, or off track?  Use these three questions to find out why you haven’t achieved your goals.

  • What do you need to be doing more of (and when)?
  • What do you need to be doing less of (and when)?
  • Who do you need to spend more time with, and who do you need to spend less time with?

With the answers to these questions, you’ll have the specific road map on how to get where you need to be.  Here’s an example of what I needed to be doing more of, and when.  When I got disciplined to the action of doing it, the results were even more perfect than I could have imagined.

About 6 months ago, I time blocked mornings as follow up time.  Calls to prospects, checking in on proposals, and cold calling (or connection making as I call it).  The difference was immediate, and intense.  I knew what to do, but only when I became disciplined to do it and say ‘no’ to other shiny ideas, tasks or distractions, did the results show like gas being thrown on a fire.  Where do you need more discipline?

I have committed to sharing my strategies and knowledge about discipline this month.  I have created an awesome little video with tips and ideas, and I will blog about a personal experience that inspired the topic, so be sure to check them out.  Personally, I know that my most important discipline is my spirituality, and then second is my health.  Family is next.  Why?  Because I have to take care of myself to be a good leader and influence for others. Make sure you’re taking care of the machine with a good balance.  The machine is YOU.  Your body, mind and spirit need to be nurtured, fed, rested and rewarded.  Only when you’re well balanced can you have the power of full engagement to empower your actions.

I am sure much of this resonates with you.  If you’re seeking better discipline, I have a coaching program well suited for individuals or teams wanting bigger results.

So remember, be disciplined, and be rich and … that your greatest leadership day is with Penny Tremblay.

Giving With No Strings Attached

‘Tis the season for giving, and there’s no better season to practice the gift of giving with no expectations.

I wrote the book on it, but I also need practice. I’ve recognized times when I am not giving unconditionally, and I have learned that we often have a motivation beyond just giving for the sake of giving. Giving with no strings attached is not as easy as one might think, but the reward is well worth the practice.

Take the following excerpt from Give and Be Rich:

Giving unconditionally is key. If we simply give without the expectation of receiving anything in return, we are giving properly. Many people however give with conditions attached. They have an underlying motivation for giving; one common motivation is recognition, another is control. This is our ego working, wanting to be right, wanting to be noticed, wanting to protect us from being vulnerable. I believe that the hearts that give – in any capacity and without expectations of return or favour – will be the most richly blessed. Furthermore, when we give in secrecy or anonymity, we receive in greater abundance. Give without the expectation of receiving anything in return. When you give with the intention of getting something back, you just don’t make the same impact.

Whether it be a gift to someone special (young or old), a workplace compliment, some time to invest in a relationship, helping someone, a charitable donation etc. try giving all that you’re offering this season with an openness that allows the recipient to receive it their way, and just feel rich knowing that your gift came from the heart with no strings attached. Sounds easy, but it’s actually quite a spiritual workout.

Strings attached to giving can have many symptoms, some of which include expectations of gaining something in return (which usually leads to disappointment), judgement of how someone is responding or reacting to your gift, frustration that you’re not getting equal to or more than you’re giving.

With no attachment, I am sending you a wonderful blessing this season of Rich Relationships with all those who really matter to you, and even those whom you’ve struggled to have a healthy connection with.

Wising you inner peace, joy and contentment,

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Assumptions Cause Unnecessary Conflict

Have you noticed the word play when you break down the word “assume”?  When you assume, you make an *SS out of U and ME.

Of course, sometimes we need to assume because it’s a logical decision-making process. For instance, I assume the roads may be slippery on a frosty morning, so I’ll give myself extra time to get where I’m going.

However, I can think of a few lessons I’ve learned about assumptions: how they cause us so much unnecessary conflict, where they stem from, and how to think them through before they make an *SS out of U and ME.

Here are a couple of examples.

Early this September, I ramped up my marketing efforts and made contact with people on my prospect list. There was a period of about two weeks during which I was persistent and consistently planting seeds, but no one was getting back to me. I began to assume no one was interested. Rather than letting that assumption get me down, I just kept persisting and, in time, the seeds began to sprout.

If you’re an entrepreneur, you can relate to this feeling; if you’re not, I’m certain you can relate it to other areas of your life.

How often do we let others’ lack of engagement with us bring forward assumptions which are deeply rooted in our own fears and insecurities?

  • Maybe when someone doesn’t like or comment on a social media post, we assume they’re miffed or disinterested.
  • Maybe when we need some help and people aren’t responding, we assume no one cares.
  • Maybe when we are going through a change, we assume it’s not going to work out for the better.

The list goes on. But before we get to the next example, let’s define a few terms:

Fact: A thing that is known or proved to be true, including a statement about one’s own feelings or thoughts.

Observation: The action or process of closely observing something or someone.

Assumption: A thing that is accepted as true or as certain to happen without proof.

How can we apply these terms in a real-world scenario?

Fact: In the workplace, Susie competed for an internal job, and lost to Paul.

Fact: Susie felt defeated and was angry.

Observation: Over time, Susie continued to find flaws in Paul’s performance and results.

Assumption: Susie accused Paul of being less than capable.

To be closest to the truth, we need to be aware of the differences between facts and assumptions. If we can ask questions about the things we assume and play detective on our own selves to uncover the truth, we’d make less inaccurate assumptions and create less conflict in our lives and the lives of others.

Pay attention to your assumptions. Are they facts or fears? Are you letting them take you out? Are you making them mean something that doesn’t serve your best interests? Don’t be afraid to ask questions to clarify motives—both yours and others’.  Asking questions is an excellent communication skill.

I’d like to assume this was helpful 🙂 But I won’t, so please message me to confirm and I may share your stories on my Facebook page.

Reboot, Reset, Recharge

Reboot, Reset, Redesign, Redefine or Recharge … We’re familiar with all of these terms as ways to return to new again.

We know that the most convenient ‘fix’ for most technologies is a reboot. To turn something off and back on again often clears out any glitch and allows for full function, but what does a ‘reboot’ mean in your personal or professional life? How can you benefit from a reset, redesign or redefinition of who you are, where you’re going and how you’ll get there?

For me, a ‘reboot’ means turning off all electronics, silencing all voices other than my inner one, and just being in the nothingness. It means being still, unavailable to others, yet connected to my source energy.

I’ve learned that my personal wellness changes with relationships that are in jeopardy but really matter to me. Add on top of that the business aspects of being an entrepreneur, and there can be a whole lot spinning, with very little traction. Often I need to reboot, reset, refuel and recharge. I can do this in nature, in silence, by myself, or with someone who helps me refocus. When I take the time out, then return to task, I feel clear and can focus, re-engage and gain traction on what I’m doing. You might be saying “I already know that”, but do you do it?

On the subject of time management, I’ve always said that one hour of uninterrupted time is equivalent to eight hours of interruptions considering the level of productivity that we can achieve with laser focus. So too is the power of nothingness for our refueling of energy. A reboot for ourselves—like our technology—is needed more often than we think, because we have so much going on in our minds.

If we want to regenerate our ways of being, we need to escape the busy-ness and find our stillness. If we want to be creative, we need a space for our creativity to stir up new ideas. Quiet, still downtime is effective. Fitness, fun and fresh air are tools to help us overcome overwhelming periods and lift our spirits.

Sometimes doing nothing is doing everything.

August is a time of renewal for me. Not only is it my birthday and a time that I think about my upcoming busy season and what I want to redesign for the year ahead, but it’s also the closing of the summer months that I need to use for rest and relaxation. I definitely want to make sure I’ve had some down time and created some space for my creativity to soar.

We are in the habit of recharging our devices, but are we in the habit of recharging ourselves? How could you benefit by adjusting your routine to recharge or reset? Plug in and expect a fresh, new, clear and clean outlook of where you are, why you desire what you want, and what you need to do to live it.

If you’re too busy to reboot, reset or recharge, you’ll definitely want to read my last leadership tip, Too Busy first, then … reboot as prescribed. 🙂

If working tirelessly then resting interests you, you’ll love this private mentoring program:

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Are You ‘Too Busy’?

I know you’re busy so I’m going to get to the point: we use the excuse or the story that we’re ‘too busy’ all the time. Regardless of what you’re spending your time doing, you’re filling it with something. But are you filling it with the right things? Or does your story just say that you’re too busy, preventing you from doing the right things?

We somehow equate being busy with being valuable. We pride ourselves on what we accomplish or involve ourselves in, and somehow being busy fulfills an inner desire to be worth more, or just worthy. Being self-employed, I see a big difference between busyness and business, and I’ve learned from experience how to put twice as much into my life.

I’ve learned that people will always make time and money for the things that are important to them, and that things that matter least often get in the way of things that matter most. I’ve also learned that we use the reasonable excuse that we’re ‘too busy’ to do things that we really don’t want to do, or are afraid to do.

Prime Examples

Almost nine years ago, a woman from Sudbury contacted me several times to show me a service that would help my business grow. I was ‘too busy’ to listen. Thankfully, she was persistent because I finally listened to her after her tenth attempt to follow up with me, and my business has grown and benefited tremendously as a result of using her service. When I look back on the experience, I wonder, “What was I thinking? How could I have been ‘too busy’ to listen to something so beneficial?” It took me too long to make time and money for something that was important—building a bigger business—because I was too wrapped up in the day-to-day operation of the way things were going at the time to see the importance of implementing a new tool.

An example of things that matter least occupying my time instead of those that matter most is when I added the task of writing my book to the already full plate I had. I used to find things to keep me busy, so I couldn’t write the book! Things like alphabetizing my paper clips, organizing my drawers, cleaning my floors, and other useless tasks I could use to fool myself into seeming busy, but I wasn’t doing the right things to get me closer to my goals.

In relationships, people use ‘too busy’ to have important conversations. If a relationship is in trouble, one (or more) of the parties in that relationship may find themselves ‘too busy’ to talk about the needs of the relationship as they put things that matter least before the critical conversations or resolutions that need to be nurtured.

We Can Put More In

Did you ever notice that some people can get two, three, or even four times more done in a day than you can in a week? Notice how they’re not ‘too busy’? They’re not spending time talking about how busy they are or creating excuses for why they can’t do what they want or need to do. They’re just doing it—all of it—and they’re open for more. Recognize that we use the reasonable excuse of having other things that occupy our time in order to avoid doing things that are difficult, important (although we do not value them as such), or frightening. Never underestimate the fact that fear drives so much of our behavior, but the ego masks this fear with reasonable excuses that we actually believe.

We use ‘too busy’ as a habit-forming crutch. We create habits of doing and not doing because we’re ‘too busy’ to be doing what we need to be doing!

How do we self-correct? We need to be very clear about what we’re up to. Be on to yourself. Notice when your addiction to urgency and busyness distracts you from the most important things in your life. Ask yourself, “Why? Why am I alphabetizing my paper clips, organizing my drawers or cleaning my floors when there are areas of my life calling out for my attention?”

What’s Your Excuse?

If you’re not really too busy, then what’s your excuse? The truth is that there is none. Pack your life full of all the things you need to say ‘yes’ to, including rest and relaxation, new business opportunities, doubling your sales and income, having those difficult conversations, and all the things within your reach. Time is a gift, and we only have so much of it. Seize each moment. It would be a shame to give up on a dream because you’re ‘too busy’ to make the time and effort to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway, with or without you trying, so just believe that there is always more space to be more, do more and have more.

If ‘too busy’ sounds like your story, you’re actually telling the universe to hold off on delivering you any more because you’re jam-packed and you have no space left as it is.

Where are you using the excuse of ‘too busy’ in your life, that’s preventing you from living the life of your dreams?

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p.s. I have all the time in the world for all of my readers, clients and referrals. Bring it on!

Are You Sleeping With Your Co-Workers?

Are You Sleeping With Your Co-Workers?

Sounds like a crazy question, but conflict with co-workers often have a way of creeping into other aspects of our personal and professional lives. We think about the conflicts while we’re on the job, stuck in traffic and resting at home, and the next thing you know, the disruptive conversations in our minds are playing out in the shower, in the bedroom, and in the most private places of our lives. How do we stop taking our coworkers into the shower and into bed in our minds?

I’m going to give you three tips, and some theory.

The nature of conflict is that it percolates inside us like a hot drink. It gets stronger and stronger the more it percolates, and we get more heated, agitated and aggravated as we continue to focus on the problem. We think about co-workers as villains, we feel victimized, and soon enough we’re caught in a whirlwind of thoughts that steal our precious time away from more productive and peaceful thinking.

Tip #1: It’s important to be aware when we find ourselves needlessly spending energy in such a whirlwind of problems and challenges.

Employees spend, on average, 2.8 hours per week dealing with conflict. That’s $359 billion dollars of hours paid, or 385 million working days lost. Conflict is popular.

There’s a huge personal cost for conflict as well, including sleepless hours, stress, and not being present for the tasks and relationships that we enjoy most. So there are actually two conflicts at play: one related to workplace issues, and another related to our own inner struggle with the conflict.

I love the teaching of an old Cherokee legend that speaks of a fight between two wolves as a metaphor for the conflict inside each of us.

An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy. “It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”

He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

Tip #2: When we’re aware of negative thoughts and feelings about a situation, we can choose something different.

If we’re choosing to remain in a cycle of conflicting thoughts about our co-workers, we need to ask ourselves what we’re getting out of it. Some of the answers you’ll find in the characteristics of the first wolf. We’re nurturing our need to stay angry, envious, sorry, regretful, greedy, arrogant, guilty, resentful, inferior, dishonest, with low esteem, or above others with a big ego. But what are we getting out of it? This is a great contemplation if you’re stuck in such a cycle.

Tip #3: We need to feed ourselves with food for our mind and spirit that will fill our beings with the characteristics of the other wolf.

We need to do things where we find joy, peace, and love. We need to read about or find hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith in the circumstances that already surround us.

Although these tips don’t even begin to scratch the surface of shifting the conflict in the workplace, they do everything to shift how the conflict affects YOU. You don’t have to carry issues with you. You can feel joy, peace, love, hope etc. and still be angry with a circumstance that is unresolved. The real question is which approach do you feed the most?

What thoughts do you want to take home? Shower with and sleep with? Blessings for peace, no matter what the circumstances. With a peaceful mind, you can conquer all that needs your attention when the time is right.

Although the strategy is simple, it’s not easy. I’d be happy to help.

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Dedicated to the employees at Pioneer Ridge in Thunder Bay, and the Alderville First Nations Health Centre, who inspired me to write this article and share with all of you.

http://www.firstpeople.us/FP-Html-Legends/TwoWolves-Cherokee.html

https://www.cpp.com/pdfs/CPP_Global_Human_Capital_Report_Workplace_Conflict.pdf

 

Speed Wobbles

Honouring Ourselves Through Misalignment

As I was driving out to a meeting one dark and snowy evening at a speed of 90 km/h, my Jeep Wrangler, “Ruby”, began to wobble. I became nervous because she’d never done that before, and I was afraid of her breaking down completely on this cold night. I slowed down, geared down and she steadied. Whew! I drove further for a few kilometers and sped up again to reach the speed limit, and again Ruby began to wobble, so I had to shift back down and continue at a much slower pace.

Traffic was on my tail, impatiently swerving to find an opportunity to pass me. I began to feel the pressure of the other drivers’ impatience, and I acknowledged the responsibility I was feeling because of it, even though a slower, steadier pace was right for me at the time. I also found it very hard to watch others pass me, like a transport did as we climbed uphill—“OMG, are you kidding me?!”—while I was slow but steady. Others were passing me by and it was bugging me.

I graciously learned two lessons from the speed wobbles that I’d like to share with you.

The first has to do with the concept of moving slower than the posted speed limit. Sometimes, the standards set by others don’t suit us in our current situation or circumstances, and it’s okay to slow down or produce below those standards so we can remain in motion, but in a steady fashion. Better than maintaining an unsafe speed and crashing! Slow and steady can still win the race. This is true in many aspects of our lives: our spiritual, mental and physical health; our relationships at home and at work; our finances, careers and education. There’s a desired pace and then there’s our pace. They don’t always align. Sometimes we may have to be, do, or have less to accomplish more in the end.

Sometimes we have to allow others to move ahead of us, let them lead us, take care of us, or eat their dust while we regain our balance, but we’ll catch up. It’s not necessarily about ‘time’, but more about ‘timing’. Although we don’t want to wait for anything anymore, we certainly don’t want to watch our family, friends, and colleagues move ahead without us any more than we want to slow them down.

The second lesson I learned from the speed wobbles was how I was affected under the pressures of others’ impatience with my slow pace. What makes their pace more important to me than my needs? Why do I allow the pressures of others to cause me stress when I’ve willingly or unwillingly chosen slow and steady as my temporary path? We honour ourselves by considering our needs before the needs of others, especially when we’re wobbling—a sign that we’re out of alignment. We need to focus our concern on our own need to heal, balance or realign, and not concern ourselves about what others think. They’ll understand and respect us for respecting ourselves. We just need to be honest, vulnerable, and able to talk about these things to those who may show impatience to us. If it’s a passing vehicle giving you the finger—well, that’s where they’re at, not where you’re at, so let them keep their frustration, and you keep your confidence.

Slower than standard is not a place to stay, but sometimes we need to back off or gear down from a pace that’s not right for us so that we can realign and rejoin the race and pace of champions. Don’t ever be afraid to take speed for a road test. There may not be any wobbles at all.

Who would have thought there’d be such rich lessons in the speed wobbles?

Need a speed test,  tune up or check up?  Call an expert.  Call me!  You can be sure that I’ll help you or the whole team gain a steady pace.

Dedicated to Rachel W. and Cheryl V. You’ve both inspired me tremendously.

The Key to Staying Committed

I once heard a great statement from the CEO of the Union of Ontario Indians.  While speaking to his team about staying committed he said, “If I’m not doing my job, please let me know, but don’t let it stop you from doing your job.”  I will always remember this piece of wisdom, and I’ve shared it with so many audiences since.

People resonate with this because they form teams, agreements, pacts, set goals or create dreams together, but if someone falls out of commitment, sometimes everyone comes to a halt, blames those who quit and remain frustrated failures at what they had committed to.

I’d say this scenario is a reasonable excuse to quit, give up, or return to the status quo.  People often don’t realize the underlying reasons they have for buying into others’ lack of commitment, but they are definitely getting something out of it, for example, it’s a good excuse to not put in your best effort because others aren’t.

Twice this week, I chatted with clients who’ve been challenged with the commitment of a team. A community leader spoke of his disappointment in a group that had a great idea and implemented it, but after a few roadblocks, people started wavering on their commitments, and the project fell apart.  I suggested to the leader that he not quit.  Others may quit, but that doesn’t mean he has to.  His satisfaction should not be at the mercy of other people’s decisions.

Another commitment conversation I had was with a group of First Nation Youths who had been fundraising for a trip to explore the West coast of Canada,  when some of their adult resources hadn’t honoured a commitment.  I told the youths that this was the time for them to step up, take the lead, and win that race.

If we let others determine our destiny, we will most often be disappointed.

When helping a team stay committed, you can hold people accountable, but in order to be in the place of doing so, you’ve got to be holding up your end of the agreement, too.

Commitment is continuing to do what you’ve said you’d do,
long after the feeling you had when you made the commitment has gone.

Commitment is not a feeling.  It’s a decision!

If you’ve been married or in a long-term relationship, you can certainly relate to that definition of commitment.  I’ve learned that when you fear someone is not remaining committed, you can stay committed regardless.  I didn’t learn it the first time around, but I’m learning it now.  My soul knows when I am all in, and I feel steady despite any wavering of others.

The key to staying committed is to not quit.  Try this statement over and over again.

I commit … I will not quit!
I commit … I will not quit!
I commit … I will not quit!

Your satisfaction depends on you, and no-one else.

p.s.  As a follow up to the group of First Nations Youth fundraising for a trip to Vancouver, they re-committed yesterday despite the low funds raised, NOT TO QUIT.  They have a dream, to explore another part of the country and to prove to themselves and their community that anything is possible with commitment.  If you’d like to read about their progress or help out, check out their CBC news coverage.

Rejection is a Great Gift

How can rejection be a great gift? I’m going to tell you but first, a quick example.

In May 2014, my book Give and Be Rich was published and made available for purchase through bookstores, my website, and speaking engagements. One additional avenue for distribution that I have keenly sought ever since is a greeting card and gifting service called SendOutCards. This is a vision I’ve had since long before the book was published; it’s something I’ve asked for hundreds of times in person and in prayer. I have endured the rejection of my requests, yet I’ve kept on asking.

I’ve recently received news that my patience and perseverance have been rewarded!  SendOutCards will make Give and Be Rich available as a gift to be shipped with a card to anywhere in the world—a dream come true for me! Thousands of customers and distributors use this service to send appreciation and build both relationships and business by reaching out in kindness—a philosophy that compliments Give and Be Rich perfectly. My distribution channels have just multiplied by the thousands.

So what does this mean to you?

How many times do you ask for something in business or in life without receiving a favorable response?

Maybe you’re asking for a prospect to take a look at your product or service.
Maybe you’re asking for a client to come on board and trust that you’re capable to help them get what they want.
Maybe you’re working in an office and asking colleagues to trust in you or your potential. Maybe you want a new job or promotion.
Maybe there’s someone or something in your personal life that you want to have or be a certain way. In any case, you may not get the favorable answer you’re looking for the first time you ask—or the second, third, fourth, fifth, or sixth time, but you get my point here: never give up on your dreams! Rejection can be your greatest gift.

If what you’re chasing is worth it for you, and if you really want it that much, push through the rejection! Persist. Don’t give up. Don’t let your fear of being rejected stand in the way of staying true to all that you desire. This may be a challenge, so reach out for help when necessary.

Make what you want more prevalent in your mind than how you feel at the time of rejection or loss. Stay focused on your goal.

Here are the most important lessons I’ve learned from receiving a ‘yes’ after hearing ‘no’ so many times:

When I experience rejection, my emotions act first, telling me that “I’m not good enough, worthy, as talented as others, or capable of being and playing at the top of my field.” This is all just FEAR—False Experiences Appearing Real.

After allowing my emotions to subside, I can revisit and assess the situation more clearly from all angles—especially in areas where I can take responsibility for creating a new circumstance. I can use this as an opportunity to grow, learn, and refine my inner beliefs and the skills required to become better.

When I act based on a clearer understanding of the situation, I am able to dig deeper and find better and more creative solutions than I could the first time around, resulting in a win-win outcome for everyone involved.  What a gift!

Here’s a challenge for you to put past rejection to work in your personal development.

Step 1: Think about a time when you faced rejection that you haven’t yet resolved in a positive way. Reexamine the details of the rejection to form a clearer perspective of all factors of the situation.

Step 2: Figure out what you can do to grow, learn, and refine areas of your life or career so that the rejection ends up being a step up for you. Remind yourself of your desired end result—your goal or dream—by putting it in writing or placing a note on your vision board to see the result manifesting itself before your eyes. Believe that it’s possible.

Step 3: Take action again. Ask again. Attempt to do so from a more creative angle than the last time you tried. Bring your new and improved self to the table. Repeat as necessary.

May you create abundance for yourself over this holiday season and into the new year, may your dreams be more prevalent in your mind than how you feel at the time of rejection or loss and may rejection be turned into a great gift for you.

Happy and safe holidays to all,

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Another useful link about rejection: http://ideas.ted.com

Three Tips toward Freedom

I’ve been inspired by the freedom I’ve created in my life, and the freedom that others have created for themselves. After a half-day of coaching, my partner and I returned to our office and rested a while. We sat in our lounge chairs on the dock, in 27-degree, sunny weather with a beautiful wind coming across the lake, and watched as an eagle flew by. Now that is freedom!

Do you have enough freedom? If you don’t, you’ll get three freedom-inspiring ideas from this short message.

Freedom comes in many forms. Freedom of time, money and mobility are a few at the top of my list of desires. Freedom from poor relationships, substance abuse, negative thinking or the control of other people are a few more, and the list goes on. Here are three tips to help free you.

Tip #1. Decide what freedom means to you, and get specific.

I remember doing an activity in 2010 when I wrote and read daily a diary entry titled “A Day in the Life of Penny Tremblay, 2015”. It was a daydream that I created for myself five years from that time. I wrote down every single detail of the dream on lined paper, including the people I saw myself with, the things I spent my time doing, and the assets I had to fulfill those things. This activity represented a conscious decision to achieve the freedom I wanted in 2015, and I’ve pretty much made it all happen with a few months to spare. Some of the players and details are a bit different than I’d imagined, but I’ve been open and trusted that I was getting what I needed—not just what I wanted—and it all came together, all because I decided and clarified what I wanted.

Tip #2. Surround yourself with highly successful people.

Reaching the pinnacle of freedom is going to require doing the right things. Hang out with people who are more accomplished in what you want to do. Success rubs off. As Jack Canfield taught me, you can’t stick your hand into a bucket of paint without getting some on you, so dip into the things that other people have that you want more of. If you want to be a millionaire, hang out with millionaires. If you want to be a pro athlete, hang out with pro athletes. If you want to be successful in business, hang out with those who are already there.

On the flip side, stop dipping into the things that other people have which you don’t want. For example, stop hanging around the gossip group. Stop buying into or participating in the negativity of your environment. Choose to opt out of it. Move on to different people.

How much time have you spent in the last week with people who already have what you want?   Hopefully your answer is at least a couple of hours.

Tip #3. Know what’s holding you back.

The difference between where you are now and where you could be once you’ve found your freedom is likely in your thought process. Limiting beliefs such as “I have to work hard for my money”, “Money doesn’t grow on trees” and “I could never afford that” have been taught to us, but they’re not always true. You can create your own truth. Sometimes you have to take a leap of faith out of the known, and into the unknown trusting that your freedom lies somewhere that you just can’t see yet.

Love your work and you’ll never have to work a day in your life.

I’ve just returned from a conference where I rubbed shoulders with multimillionaires—people who have incredible freedom of time, money and mobility. They’re the leaders in one of my businesses. I learned that the number one commodity in the world right now is supplementary income. Everyone wants more money, which makes sense, but what makes even more sense to me is creating the wealth in a way that doesn’t hold one back from living each and every day the way they want. It’s possible! I’m working on it and making great progress. Ask me how, and I’ll bring you in on my success strategy.

There you have it: three tips to freedom. Best wishes for eagles, water, wind and rest, or whatever freedoms you desire.