It was an emotional day as I said farewell to my 17 year-old Japanese student who’s come to Canada for an English educational experience. She inspired this topic of discipline. Coming from Asia where education is the highest priority for school aged youth, she demonstrated consistency and effort every single day with her routine of study. Before she arrived, I had wanted a more productive routine in my life, which is one reason I said yes to taking one of the 45 youth that came to North Bay from Saga Japan. I was aware of other Asian cultures, so I knew this experience would be good for my new single, independent life, as well as my children’s experience too. I set some written house rules, more about routine, so she could read them and better understand them with the language barrier.
About a month into her stay, we watched The Karate Kid together, and the movie coupled with the experience of watching her habits made me aware of the difference between disciplines in the Asian and Canadian lifestyle. I think we have a lot to learn about discipline from the people of Asian traditions, and I think that our lives would be more productive, our governments more effective, our budgets more useful if we adopted some of the productive efforts that are demonstrated in these ancient ways of living.
It seems like we’re more social here, and that is not a bad thing. But I believe that our social desires do distract us from what could be a more productive result, especially in this era of technology and social media, social networking and the entire knowledge base of the internet right in the palm of our hands.
- Would you like to shift your results in business, relationships or wellness?
- What would you like to be different?
- What discipline (habits) do you need to form to achieve the new result?
- How are you going to stay on course?
I’ve written a full Leadership Tip about the topic, here’s a link.
How would you like to get more now. More money? More time, more attention, a better job, a raise? Getting Is Very Easy… G.I.V.E. just give.
When we give, we feel better about ourselves. We receive the currency of giving. Money is one currency and there are many more. Like self-worth, confidence, security, relationships, respect, wisdom, prayer. We actually get what we give, because we tap the circle of abundance.
When I wrote “Give and Be Rich” the intention was to help people and find ways to make the world a better place.
I recently listened to Richard Branson speak to an audience. He told us to find a problem as big as we are and solve it. For the large corporation to solve a large problem and for a small business to find and solve a small problem. As individuals, we can perform random acts of kindness to change the world one person at a time, one day at a time.
One amazing resource is Unite For Good. www.U4G.com is the coolest platform to connect socially conscious entrepreneurs, and then connect Not For Profits with donors!
Anyone can do something great today. Visit U4G.com to create a profile. Each time you complete a random act of kindness, log it into your account and U4G will pay you in crystals that you can donate to the charity of your choice. Your crystals are turned into money and given to that charity.
What a fantastic way to do something nice and have it keep giving! Remember, in order to get, you have to G.I.V.E. Now you can G.I.V.E. with U4G.com
Not-For-Profits can register and be given funds, based on the popularity of their cause. If you are or know of a not-for-profit looking for funds, you’ll definitely want to recommend U4G.COM
So Get More Now! and remember your greatest leadership day is with Penny Tremblay.
I’ve been basking in gratitude this week for all that I have, including the people in my life, and in my business. I feel so blessed to have great clients.
Yesterday I had a request from an international journal to re-run an article that I’d written for them years ago, because they feel it’s still so relevant to success. It too is about gratitude, specifically by thanking customers. Although it’s written for a certain industry, it’s relevant to all.
Here’s the article download. Read, do, and be rich in stronger more profitable relationships.
Being among family can be more demanding of our emotional capacity than anything else. You can choose your friends, but family is chosen for us, and the bond runs deep whether relations are good or not good. Tolerance is an asset.
Be the Gift this year. Be tolerant of others. Be the one who can mingle in family time without judgment. Accept people for who they are, or who they are not.
Be aware of your intolerant thoughts about people, places or things. If thoughts of resentment, jealousy, judgment or self pity back come up, redirect them back toward your own peace as if they are light beams that are yours, and being chosen to keep for their brilliant energy. Call it back to you, and convert it to light, bright goodness so that it can be medicine for your own mind, body and spirit.
Other people’s issues aren’t our problem to solve. They’ve got their own struggles and we have ours. If we were supposed to be dealing with their struggles, it would feel right. But it feels off, which is our internal guidance system telling us to focus elsewhere.
This is a very short Holiday greeting, because I know you’re busy and heading into the most intensive seasons of the year. A time when you’ll be with family, and those that matter most to you, and for some, a time when you can only wish you could be with someone special who isn’t there. Be Tolerant – and Be Rich in peace, love and joy.
Don’t Put Conditions on Giving or Receiving
Much easier said than done! We often think we are giving without conditions, but are we really?
For example, you give someone in your family a financial gift and after a couple of weeks you’re disappointed that they haven’t said ‘thank you’. Another example is – you volunteer for a certain company because you’re looking for a job with them, but they hire someone else. These two issues are those of ethical values, and should be treated as such, but having the expectation of receiving something back as a result of giving your money or time is dysfunctional. What it actually creates is more of the same. Like attracts like. It creates a return to you with an expectation attached. Yuck!
Here is a question posed to Deepak Chopra by Vincent Molina that provides a beautiful explanation about the exact match where outflow attracts inflow.
posted by: Vincent Molina
Question: Hi Deepak,
In the seven spiritual laws of success, it is said that you must give to receive. If you give money (with joy and love), the universe will feedback at you more of it. Right ? But is it possible to transmute that energy? For example, giving “food”, and wishing consciously something else in return, like “money”. Is such a transmutation possible?
Giving is really just a flow of your loving self to others. When that happens, it sets up a flow of supportive energy back to you. When we say you must give to receive, it’s not that you give in order to get something. Rather it’s a way of explaining how the abundance of life flows. If you are not feeling that flow of abundance coming to you, then the first thing to ask is if you are creating a flow of giving from yourself. You don’t need to manipulate or control your giving. Simply give what you can with a full heart. And don’t try to control what you will be receiving either. Know that you will automatically receive exactly what you need. Love, Deepak
In summary, to really give unconditionally, make sure you fully detach from what you are giving. Give it up fully, with love, and feel it disconnect from you energetically so it may go onto someone else and serve them in a beneficial way. Give money without expectation for a ‘thank you’. Give time without any strings attached. Don’t be a ‘sticky giver’ where some energy attached to what you’ve given sticks with you to keep you connected with what has left your possession.
Give with a full heart, with no expected results. Way easier said than done! I wrote the book, Give and Be Rich – Tapping the Circle of Abundance, and even I catch myself giving with intentions of receiving back sometimes.
The same goes for receiving … but that’s a topic for another blog post.
Where have you been giving with expectations or attachment? and How can you fully detach from that which you give?
This food for thought is given fully to you, with an open heart and no expected return.
* If you liked this, you’ll love my new book, Give & Be Rich – Tapping the Circle of Abundance
Preparing for a late-night walk in the rain with my dog Joy, my coat, hood and headband flashlight had made the dark, damp night feel safe.
I had been walking for almost 45 minutes before I realized that my head was dully aching. The guiding light of my headband’s light had been bright enough to help me find my way along the dirt road and choose secure and solid steps over the uneven ground, rocks and mud puddles, but once over the rough terrain, it became a burden. Had I been more tuned into the feeling of my skull being compressed by the headband, I would have removed it sooner. As soon as I realized and acted upon this, I instantly regretted my earlier lack of attention; the release of the taught elastic band that secured the lamp to my forehead loosened, and I felt immediate relief, expansion and freedom.
I then removed my hood and felt a natural high as the cool breeze blew through my hair. I began to think about how clinging to something—or someone—else’s guiding light and protection might end up sheltering me in the long run.
In my past, I held onto a guiding light: a teacher whom I felt compelled to follow along with, step by step. Following my teacher’s light, I felt safe and protected, but it was only after our time together ended that I discovered my own way. Without the teacher’s light, I was forced to find my own. Without their protection, I had to be brave; to stumble, get back up, and find my own groove. The chance to do things my own way gave me a new freedom that I had never known. This, too, was a natural high that felt just like the sudden cool breeze blowing through my hair: refreshing, liberating, proud and abundant.
Why do we remain under the wings of those who’ve led us, rather than take flight on our own journey with what we’ve learned?
Where have we allowed overprotection in our lives, and how has that stifled our freedom?
What are we clinging to for safety which only holds us back from being who we really are?
When will we allow our own guiding lights to shine brighter than those without whom we thought we’d be blind?
The brilliance of others can be helpful to us when balanced with our own guidance. The protection of others can be a safe place while we strengthen ourselves, but it’s not meant to be a place to curl up and hide from our own potential.
As I walked without the guiding light and hooded protection, I saw the night sky, the moon and the stars and realized that unsheltered and untethered is where my true freedom is.
Best wishes for your steps to freedom,
Penny Tremblay is the Director of the Tremblay Leadership Center, an international speaker, author, trainer and mentor with more than 20 years experience on the subject of business relationships. Her work has been published internationally for over ten years in online and offline publications, books and audio products. Her new book, Give and Be Rich will help you tap the circle of abundance in early 2014. Penny lives in Northern Ontario where she loves to balance family, career and time for spiritual self-mastery. www.PennyTremblay.com
Give and Be Rich – Tapping the Circle of Abundance is my new book title and concept. It’s release date will be announced soon.
Someone else’s story that demonstrates this concept so well was forwarded to me today by my great friend Mike Dagostino. The story is about the kindness shown to the passengers and crews of many commercial jets who landed on the fatal day of September 11th, 2001 in Gander, Newfoundland. It’s a heartwarming story, well worth the time to read it.
Jerry Brown Delta Flight 15… (true story) from a flight attendant on Delta Flight 15,written following 9-11:
On the morning of Tuesday, September 11, we were about 5 hours out of Frankfurt, flying over the North Atlantic .All of a sudden the curtains parted and I was told to go to the cockpit, immediately, to see the captain. As soon as I got there I noticed that the crew had that “All Business” look on their faces. The captain handed me a printed message. It was from Delta’s main office in Atlanta and simply read, “All airways over the Continental United States are closed to commercial air traffic. Land ASAP at the nearest airport. Advise your destination.”
No one said a word about what this could mean. We knew it was a serious situation and we needed to find terra firma quickly. The captain determined that the nearest airport was 400 miles behind us in Gander , Newfoundland.
He requested approval for a route change from the Canadian traffic controller and approval was granted immediately — no questions asked. We found out later, of course, why there was no hesitation in approving our request. While the flight crew prepared the airplane for landing, another message arrived from Atlanta telling us about some terrorist activity in the New York area. A few minutes later word came in about the hijackings.
We decided to LIE to the passengers while we were still in the air. We told them the plane had a simple instrument problem and that we needed to land at the nearest airport in Gander , Newfoundland, to have it checked out. We promised to give more information after landing in Gander . There was much grumbling among the passengers, but that’s nothing new! Forty minutes later, we landed in Gander . Local time at Gander was 12:30 PM! …. that’s 11:00 AM EST.
There were already about 20 other airplanes on the ground from all over the world that had taken this detour on their way to the U.S. After we parked on the ramp, the captain made the following announcement: “Ladies and gentlemen, you must be wondering if all these airplanes around us have the same instrument problem as we have. The reality is that we are here for another reason.” Then he went on to explain the little bit we knew about the situation in the U.S. There were loud gasps and stares of disbelief. The captain informed passengers that Ground control in Gander told us to stay put. The Canadian Government was in charge of our situation and no one was allowed to get off the aircraft. No one on the ground was allowed to come near any of the air crafts. Only airport police would come around periodically, look us over and go on to the next airplane. In the next hour or so more planes landed and Gander ended up with 53 airplanes from all over the world, 27 of which were U.S. commercial jets. Meanwhile, bits of news started to come in over the aircraft radio and for the first time we learned that airplanes were flown into the World Trade Center in New York and into the Pentagon in DC. People were trying to use their cell phones, but were unable to connect due to a different cell system in Canada . Some did get through, but were only able to get to the Canadian operator who would tell them that the lines to the U.S. were either blocked or jammed.
Sometime in the evening the news filtered to us that the World Trade Center buildings had collapsed and that a fourth hijacking had resulted in a crash.
By now the passengers were emotionally and physically exhausted, not to mention frightened, but everyone stayed amazingly calm. We had only to look out the window at the 52 other stranded aircraft to realize that we were not the only ones in this predicament. We had been told earlier that they would be allowing people off the planes one plane at a time. At 6 PM, Gander airport told us that our turn to deplane would be 11 am the next morning. Passengers were not happy, but they simply resigned themselves to this news without much noise and started to prepare themselves to spend the night on the airplane.
Gander had promised us medical attention, if needed, water, and lavatory servicing. And they were true to their word. Fortunately we had no medical situations to worry about. We did have a young lady who was 33 weeks into her pregnancy. We took REALLY good care of her. The night passed without incident despite the uncomfortable sleeping arrangements.
About 10:30 on the morning of the 12th a convoy of school buses showed up. We got off the plane and were taken to the terminal where we went through Immigration and Customs and then had to register with the Red Cross.
After that we (the crew) were separated from the passengers and were taken in vans to a small hotel. We had no idea where our passengers were going. We learned from the Red Cross that the town of Gander has a population of 10,400 people and they had about 10,500 passengers to take care of from all the airplanes that were forced into Gander! We were told to just relax at the hotel and we would be contacted when the U.S. airports opened again, but not to expect that call for a while.
We found out the total scope of the terror back home only after getting to our hotel and turning on the TV, 24 hours after it all started. Meanwhile, we had lots of time on our hands and found that the people of Gander were extremely friendly. They started calling us the “plane people.” We enjoyed their hospitality, explored the town of Gander and ended up having a pretty good time.
Two days later, we got that call and were taken back to the Gander airport. Back on the plane, we were reunited with the passengers and found out what they had been doing for the past two days. What we found out was incredible. Gander and all the surrounding communities (within MATCH about a 75Kilometer radius) had closed all high schools, meeting halls, lodges, and any other large gathering places. They converted all these facilities to mass lodging areas for all the stranded travelers. Some had cots set up, some had mats with sleeping bags and pillows set up.
ALL the high school students were required to volunteer their time to take care of the “guests.” Our 218 passengers ended up in a town called Lewisporte, about 45 kilometers from Gander where they were put up in a high school. If any women wanted to be in a women-only facility, that was arranged. Families were kept together. All the elderly passengers were taken to private homes.
Remember that young pregnant lady? She was put up in a private home right across the street from a 24-hour Urgent Care facility. There was a dentist on call and both male and female nurses remained with the crowd for the duration. Phone calls and e-mails to the U.S. and around the world were available to everyone once a day. During the day, passengers were offered “Excursion” trips. Some people went on boat cruises of the lakes and harbors. Some went for hikes in the local forests. Local bakeries stayed open to make fresh bread for the guests.
Food was prepared by all the residents and brought to the schools. People were driven to restaurants of their choice and offered wonderful meals. Everyone was given tokens for local laundry mats to wash their clothes, since luggage was still on the aircraft. In other words, every single need was met for those stranded travelers.
Passengers were crying while telling us these stories. Finally, when they were told that U.S. airports had reopened, they were delivered to the airport right on time and without a single passenger missing or late. The local Red Cross had all the information about the whereabouts of each and every passenger and knew which plane they needed to be on and when all the planes were leaving. They coordinated everything beautifully.
It was absolutely incredible. When passengers came on board, it was like they had been on a cruise. Everyone knew each other by name. They were swapping stories of their stay, impressing each other with who had the better time. Our flight back to Atlanta looked like a chartered party flight. The crew just stayed out of their way. It was mind-boggling. Passengers had totally bonded and were calling each other by their first names, exchanging phone numbers, addresses, and email addresses. And then a very unusual thing happened. One of our passengers approached me and asked if he could make an announcement over the PA system. We never, ever allow that. But this time was different. I said “of course” and handed him the mike. He picked up the PA and reminded everyone about what they had just gone through in the last few days. He reminded them of the hospitality they had received at the hands of total strangers. He continued by saying that he would like to do something in return for the good folks of Lewisporte.
“He said he was going to set up a Trust Fund under the name of DELTA 15 (our flight number). The purpose of the trust fund is to provide college scholarships for the high school students of Lewisporte. He asked for donations of any amount from his fellow travelers. When the paper with donations got back to us with the amounts, names, phone numbers and addresses, the total was for more than $14,000!
“The gentleman, a MD from Virginia, promised to match the donations and to start the administrative work on the scholarship. He also said that he would forward this proposal to Delta Corporate and ask them to donate as well. As I write this account, the trust fund is at more than $1.5 million and has assisted 134 students in college education.
“I just wanted to share this story because we need good stories right now. It gives me a little bit of hope to know that some people in a faraway place were kind to some strangers who literally dropped in on them. It reminds me how much good there is in the world.”
In spite of all the rotten things we see going on in today¹s world this story confirms that there are still a lot of good and Godly people in the world and when things get bad, they will come forward.”God Bless America… and God Bless the Canadians.”
Giving without expecting anything in return brings back riches beyond our wildest imagination. Gob Bless my readers, ~ Penny