Vision Card

Visualize Your Dreams – Card Making Activity

In this vision card, free activity we’ll create individual collages representing long-term personal, educational and career goal setting. Every DREAM CARD is different and may have images and words representing different life areas.

Consider the following aspects of your life:

  • Spirituality
  • Health
  • Relationships
  • Wealth
  • Hobbies / Toys
  • Travel
  • Job / Contribution
  • Your WHY
  • Giving Back
  • Other …

Search for images on the internet or snap photos of the items you’d like to attract into your life. Place the images on a card using your card sending account. If you don’t have one, text me for a complimentary code to send two free greeting cards with postage paid. 705-358-3396

Personally, I position Spiritual image(s) in the middle of my vision card or vision board. Spirituality is the core of my being, so I put it in the middle of everything else. I also put Relationships in the top right corner, because that is the highest point and starting point of my circle. I group images together that represent the aspects of life that are important to me, moving clockwise around the canvass.

Mail the card to yourself or make it a campaign and send a copy to the people that matter to you, your up-line and /or accountability partner.

Keep your DREAM CARD in your view.

When you look at it, feel the feeling of having life the way you are designing it.

Don’t underestimate the visions and feelings of having them, of what you want in life. You’ll be amazed at how this tool works when you have high intention, and low attachment to the results.

Call me if you have any questions, or to bring this workshop activity to your group.

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10 Reasons to Thank Your Customers

I’ve been basking in gratitude this week for all that I have, including the people in my life, and in my business.  I feel so blessed to have great clients.

Yesterday I had a request from an international journal to re-run an article that I’d written for them years ago, because they feel it’s still so relevant to success. It too is about gratitude, specifically by thanking customers.  Although it’s written for a certain industry, it’s relevant to all.

Here’s the article download.  Read, do, and be rich in stronger more profitable relationships.

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Giving With No Strings Attached

‘Tis the season for giving, and there’s no better season to practice the gift of giving with no expectations.

I wrote the book on it, but I also need practice. I’ve recognized times when I am not giving unconditionally, and I have learned that we often have a motivation beyond just giving for the sake of giving. Giving with no strings attached is not as easy as one might think, but the reward is well worth the practice.

Take the following excerpt from Give and Be Rich:

Giving unconditionally is key. If we simply give without the expectation of receiving anything in return, we are giving properly. Many people however give with conditions attached. They have an underlying motivation for giving; one common motivation is recognition, another is control. This is our ego working, wanting to be right, wanting to be noticed, wanting to protect us from being vulnerable. I believe that the hearts that give – in any capacity and without expectations of return or favour – will be the most richly blessed. Furthermore, when we give in secrecy or anonymity, we receive in greater abundance. Give without the expectation of receiving anything in return. When you give with the intention of getting something back, you just don’t make the same impact.

Whether it be a gift to someone special (young or old), a workplace compliment, some time to invest in a relationship, helping someone, a charitable donation etc. try giving all that you’re offering this season with an openness that allows the recipient to receive it their way, and just feel rich knowing that your gift came from the heart with no strings attached. Sounds easy, but it’s actually quite a spiritual workout.

Strings attached to giving can have many symptoms, some of which include expectations of gaining something in return (which usually leads to disappointment), judgement of how someone is responding or reacting to your gift, frustration that you’re not getting equal to or more than you’re giving.

With no attachment, I am sending you a wonderful blessing this season of Rich Relationships with all those who really matter to you, and even those whom you’ve struggled to have a healthy connection with.

Wising you inner peace, joy and contentment,

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Passion For Your Business Affecting Your Marriage?

Some people believe that business passion affects marriage. As businesswomen, we may feel that we have to make a choice between our love for our marriages and families and the passion that fuels our entrepreneurial spirits!

What makes this business dilemma more difficult for women than men goes back thousands of years, but times are changing, and so are the needs of both partners.

You can have all the love and passion that you want with the strategy revealed in a short interview with Teresa Ball, a vibrant and loving entrepreneur, wife and mom to many.

Our balance sheet isn’t always defined by the numbers on a ledger. As an entrepreneur, Teresa has a great lesson for all women—especially those feeling challenged by their spouses—about the businesses they’re in love with.

I met Teresa at a large convention in Salt Lake City when she purchased my book, Give and Be Rich. Her story of love and passion brought tears to my eyes, and I knew it needed to be shared, and shared by those I shared it with, and those they shared it with, and so on.

There are many women who deal with unsupportive spouses and families that feel ignored or less important than the businesses that their moms are so passionate about.

Many of these women’s spouses feel burdened by changes in their day-to-day responsibilities, threatened by a partner who travels or meets with the opposite sex, or insecure about having a significant other become more successful than them.

It seems that as we are building or expanding our businesses, the relationships in our lives shift. It can be a difficult time as you try to protect your passion for your business and stand up for who you are and what you do, while butting heads with some of the fears and insecurities that drive typical family bonds.

This is a dangerous zone to be moving through. With good communication and lots of extra ‘action’, you’ll be able to have your love and your passion on a whole new level.

Listen to find out how Teresa Ball from Rossville, Georgia and her husband, Paul, worked through it.

Give and Be Rich in Love and Passion, business passion affects marriage but working together at it, you can have it all!

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Assumptions Cause Unnecessary Conflict

Have you noticed the word play when you break down the word “assume”?  When you assume, you make an *SS out of U and ME.

Of course, sometimes we need to assume because it’s a logical decision-making process. For instance, I assume the roads may be slippery on a frosty morning, so I’ll give myself extra time to get where I’m going.

However, I can think of a few lessons I’ve learned about assumptions: how they cause us so much unnecessary conflict, where they stem from, and how to think them through before they make an *SS out of U and ME.

Here are a couple of examples.

Early this September, I ramped up my marketing efforts and made contact with people on my prospect list. There was a period of about two weeks during which I was persistent and consistently planting seeds, but no one was getting back to me. I began to assume no one was interested. Rather than letting that assumption get me down, I just kept persisting and, in time, the seeds began to sprout.

If you’re an entrepreneur, you can relate to this feeling; if you’re not, I’m certain you can relate it to other areas of your life.

How often do we let others’ lack of engagement with us bring forward assumptions which are deeply rooted in our own fears and insecurities?

  • Maybe when someone doesn’t like or comment on a social media post, we assume they’re miffed or disinterested.
  • Maybe when we need some help and people aren’t responding, we assume no one cares.
  • Maybe when we are going through a change, we assume it’s not going to work out for the better.

The list goes on. But before we get to the next example, let’s define a few terms:

Fact: A thing that is known or proved to be true, including a statement about one’s own feelings or thoughts.

Observation: The action or process of closely observing something or someone.

Assumption: A thing that is accepted as true or as certain to happen without proof.

How can we apply these terms in a real-world scenario?

Fact: In the workplace, Susie competed for an internal job, and lost to Paul.

Fact: Susie felt defeated and was angry.

Observation: Over time, Susie continued to find flaws in Paul’s performance and results.

Assumption: Susie accused Paul of being less than capable.

To be closest to the truth, we need to be aware of the differences between facts and assumptions. If we can ask questions about the things we assume and play detective on our own selves to uncover the truth, we’d make less inaccurate assumptions and create less conflict in our lives and the lives of others.

Pay attention to your assumptions. Are they facts or fears? Are you letting them take you out? Are you making them mean something that doesn’t serve your best interests? Don’t be afraid to ask questions to clarify motives—both yours and others’.  Asking questions is an excellent communication skill.

I’d like to assume this was helpful 🙂 But I won’t, so please message me to confirm and I may share your stories on my Facebook page.

My Life Is Messy

Having coffee with an influential woman in my life the other day had some food for thought tossed on the table. She said that people see me as ‘near perfect’, and that it could possibly hold them back from connecting. I was surprised to hear this feedback, because I have a messy life, but it wasn’t the first time I’d heard it.

Several years ago I was working with a Spiritual teacher in California on an exercise around intimacy (meaning allowing people to see into me, into-me-see). I failed the exercise miserably. The teacher said, “I agree. When you show up, you’re still ten steps back, and although magnificent from there, people can’t feel you.” I was shocked by this feedback, and remember sleeping like a baby that night (went to bed early, cried all night, woke up early crying some more). I was a mess to learn this about myself, but it was true, and I grew from it.

Up until that time, I’d mastered the art of allowing people to see what I wanted them to see. With the outer mask and energetic wall I’d erected, my image seemed to be quite controllable. Or at least that’s what I thought, until I realized the huge cost for masks and walls. The cost gets paid in connection, or lack of connection. People couldn’t get in, and I couldn’t get out.

A common example of masks is seen in all media. Social media posts have people staging their best photos, best times and put their best announcements up for all to see, which masks the big picture of their life. Print media and magazine images are touched up, teeth are whitened, blemishes removed etc. etc.

Another example of masking is noticeable in the workplace. People wear masks to seem perfect in their roles or attain promotions. They dress the part, and presto! They feel like they’re half way there, but it doesn’t take long for those who work with them to get the ‘real read’, because we can’t hide our energy.

The most important question I think we need to ask is “What’s wrong with messy?” Or what’s wrong with real, authentic, genuine ways of being, of which imperfection is big part? Ego isn’t nearly as attractive as authenticity, intimacy and vulnerability. Take off the masks, and tear down the walls, and let people feel the real deal.

I want to ask anyone who hasn’t reached out to me because they thought I was unapproachable, or they couldn’t feel me, to try again. My life is messy. It’s nowhere near ‘perfect’, thank God! Perfect is way too much work. The verb (to perfect) is good planning and good use of our time, but we all have ‘stuff’. If you’re looking at someone who seems better than you are in some way, just remember that you are only seeing the surface. You have no idea what’s really going on, and how messy one’s life can be, nor does it even matter. Comparison is the thief of joy. Don’t let your joy be stolen by the idea that someone else has a near-perfect life. We are all on this earth for growth, and we grow most during the tough times.

I now celebrate the messes in my life because without them I wouldn’t be able to inspire others with my own experiences. My toughest lessons have brought me wisdom, humility, strength and made me more able to relate to others. If I could wave my magic wand I wouldn’t change my past. There’s some very important relationships that I wish were better, but the messiness is part of who I am, where I’m going and how I can serve people in the future.

The best way to enrich our lives is to accept and love ourselves, and hope to get messy often enough.

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Reboot, Reset, Recharge

Reboot, Reset, Redesign, Redefine or Recharge … We’re familiar with all of these terms as ways to return to new again.

We know that the most convenient ‘fix’ for most technologies is a reboot. To turn something off and back on again often clears out any glitch and allows for full function, but what does a ‘reboot’ mean in your personal or professional life? How can you benefit from a reset, redesign or redefinition of who you are, where you’re going and how you’ll get there?

For me, a ‘reboot’ means turning off all electronics, silencing all voices other than my inner one, and just being in the nothingness. It means being still, unavailable to others, yet connected to my source energy.

I’ve learned that my personal wellness changes with relationships that are in jeopardy but really matter to me. Add on top of that the business aspects of being an entrepreneur, and there can be a whole lot spinning, with very little traction. Often I need to reboot, reset, refuel and recharge. I can do this in nature, in silence, by myself, or with someone who helps me refocus. When I take the time out, then return to task, I feel clear and can focus, re-engage and gain traction on what I’m doing. You might be saying “I already know that”, but do you do it?

On the subject of time management, I’ve always said that one hour of uninterrupted time is equivalent to eight hours of interruptions considering the level of productivity that we can achieve with laser focus. So too is the power of nothingness for our refueling of energy. A reboot for ourselves—like our technology—is needed more often than we think, because we have so much going on in our minds.

If we want to regenerate our ways of being, we need to escape the busy-ness and find our stillness. If we want to be creative, we need a space for our creativity to stir up new ideas. Quiet, still downtime is effective. Fitness, fun and fresh air are tools to help us overcome overwhelming periods and lift our spirits.

Sometimes doing nothing is doing everything.

August is a time of renewal for me. Not only is it my birthday and a time that I think about my upcoming busy season and what I want to redesign for the year ahead, but it’s also the closing of the summer months that I need to use for rest and relaxation. I definitely want to make sure I’ve had some down time and created some space for my creativity to soar.

We are in the habit of recharging our devices, but are we in the habit of recharging ourselves? How could you benefit by adjusting your routine to recharge or reset? Plug in and expect a fresh, new, clear and clean outlook of where you are, why you desire what you want, and what you need to do to live it.

If you’re too busy to reboot, reset or recharge, you’ll definitely want to read my last leadership tip, Too Busy first, then … reboot as prescribed. 🙂

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Are You ‘Too Busy’?

I know you’re busy so I’m going to get to the point: we use the excuse or the story that we’re ‘too busy’ all the time. Regardless of what you’re spending your time doing, you’re filling it with something. But are you filling it with the right things? Or does your story just say that you’re too busy, preventing you from doing the right things?

We somehow equate being busy with being valuable. We pride ourselves on what we accomplish or involve ourselves in, and somehow being busy fulfills an inner desire to be worth more, or just worthy. Being self-employed, I see a big difference between busyness and business, and I’ve learned from experience how to put twice as much into my life.

I’ve learned that people will always make time and money for the things that are important to them, and that things that matter least often get in the way of things that matter most. I’ve also learned that we use the reasonable excuse that we’re ‘too busy’ to do things that we really don’t want to do, or are afraid to do.

Prime Examples

Almost nine years ago, a woman from Sudbury contacted me several times to show me a service that would help my business grow. I was ‘too busy’ to listen. Thankfully, she was persistent because I finally listened to her after her tenth attempt to follow up with me, and my business has grown and benefited tremendously as a result of using her service. When I look back on the experience, I wonder, “What was I thinking? How could I have been ‘too busy’ to listen to something so beneficial?” It took me too long to make time and money for something that was important—building a bigger business—because I was too wrapped up in the day-to-day operation of the way things were going at the time to see the importance of implementing a new tool.

An example of things that matter least occupying my time instead of those that matter most is when I added the task of writing my book to the already full plate I had. I used to find things to keep me busy, so I couldn’t write the book! Things like alphabetizing my paper clips, organizing my drawers, cleaning my floors, and other useless tasks I could use to fool myself into seeming busy, but I wasn’t doing the right things to get me closer to my goals.

In relationships, people use ‘too busy’ to have important conversations. If a relationship is in trouble, one (or more) of the parties in that relationship may find themselves ‘too busy’ to talk about the needs of the relationship as they put things that matter least before the critical conversations or resolutions that need to be nurtured.

We Can Put More In

Did you ever notice that some people can get two, three, or even four times more done in a day than you can in a week? Notice how they’re not ‘too busy’? They’re not spending time talking about how busy they are or creating excuses for why they can’t do what they want or need to do. They’re just doing it—all of it—and they’re open for more. Recognize that we use the reasonable excuse of having other things that occupy our time in order to avoid doing things that are difficult, important (although we do not value them as such), or frightening. Never underestimate the fact that fear drives so much of our behavior, but the ego masks this fear with reasonable excuses that we actually believe.

We use ‘too busy’ as a habit-forming crutch. We create habits of doing and not doing because we’re ‘too busy’ to be doing what we need to be doing!

How do we self-correct? We need to be very clear about what we’re up to. Be on to yourself. Notice when your addiction to urgency and busyness distracts you from the most important things in your life. Ask yourself, “Why? Why am I alphabetizing my paper clips, organizing my drawers or cleaning my floors when there are areas of my life calling out for my attention?”

What’s Your Excuse?

If you’re not really too busy, then what’s your excuse? The truth is that there is none. Pack your life full of all the things you need to say ‘yes’ to, including rest and relaxation, new business opportunities, doubling your sales and income, having those difficult conversations, and all the things within your reach. Time is a gift, and we only have so much of it. Seize each moment. It would be a shame to give up on a dream because you’re ‘too busy’ to make the time and effort to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway, with or without you trying, so just believe that there is always more space to be more, do more and have more.

If ‘too busy’ sounds like your story, you’re actually telling the universe to hold off on delivering you any more because you’re jam-packed and you have no space left as it is.

Where are you using the excuse of ‘too busy’ in your life, that’s preventing you from living the life of your dreams?

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p.s. I have all the time in the world for all of my readers, clients and referrals. Bring it on!

Until Death Do We… Unite

“Until death do we part” is etched in my mind as a popular wedding vow.  Lately, however, I’ve been thinking about how death or tragedy brings people together.  The sharing of loss, grief and compassion has family members dropping the things that would normally keep them too busy to connect so that they can show up to support one another.  The deeper question I have is why do we wait?  Why does it take a tragedy to put the first things first in our lives, which—for most people—are relationships?

Even a minor shift in a relationship piques my interest in this subject.  I recently heard news of a talented businessman leaving our community and felt an urgent need to connect with him.  I wanted to ensure that our relationship doesn’t end.  He’s valuable to me.  I feel I have as much to offer him as he has to offer me. “Why did I wait?” I asked myself.

If you took your last breath upon retiring to bed tonight, would it all be said?  Would those you love and care about know how you feel?  Would the strained relationships in your life become resolved? More importantly, would you feel complete with those who really matter to you?

My partner Matt received a phone call about a month ago with sad news of his step-father’s passing. Matt’s mom had left his stepfather at home while she ran a daily errand, only to come home 45 minutes later to find him laying on the floor.  He had passed away very suddenly and with no warning.  Matt spent a few hours with his mom and the body of his stepdad before the coroner took him away.  It was in those moments that Matt was able to say a few things that he’d been wanting to say for many years.

When we see someone, we never know if it will be for the last time; yet if we think about how we’d leave things with that person—just in case it is the last time—we’d respond and communicate from a deeper place of love and acceptance instead of judgment and criticism.  It’s not just the person we’re losing that we connect with in a time of tragedy.  We rekindle, resolve and reconnect with other members of our family or community with whom we’ve grown apart from because we realize that the human needs of support and compassion that we can give far outweigh our own selfish battles of ego, being right, being accepted, or being treated a certain way.  Why don’t we just default to love, support and compassion?

Things that matter most shouldn’t be at the mercy of things that matter least.  In the end, relationships matter most, so why wait?  We’re not too busy when there is a tragedy to drop everything and go to support the people that matter, so why don’t we make time to nurture the needs of relationships that matter even in the absence of tragedy?

Healing of Mothers and Children

I’m sharing this personal experience to help in the healing of mothers and children, as we celebrate Mother’s Day.

Early this morning I sat in a deep meditation, inviting wisdom from spiritual sources; some who are alive and some that have passed.  In the center of my circle of wisdom keepers and seekers, a fire burned and the intention was set for healing, clarity and wisdom about being a Mom, and/or a daughter/son.

It was known that we can be called to duty because we’ve got gifts to give.  The Creator, God, has a divine plan for us, and the duties sometimes seem unfair, but we’re given tasks because of our capabilities to perform them best.

Sometimes as Mother’s, we need to make difficult choices to save ourselves that seem to interrupt the flow or the comfort of our children or families.  Being a Mom / child is just a part of who we are, and taking care of the other parts of who we are critical to our inner peace.  These choices can cause upset for our children or parents, they will grow through the struggles.  The bond of love between a mother and child is unbreakable at a soul level.  Our job as Mother’s is to love our children.  It is not their job to love us back.  It is their job to find their way amidst the obstacles of life, and we must allow them to explore.  There is a lot of time in the future to allow the bonds of love between parent and child to be fulfilling.

I was reminded that well beyond this lifetime, there are many other lives to live out, and we choose people long before we came into this life to live with and learn some of our toughest lessons, which strengthen us for this and future lives.

We have choices to make about the company we keep.  At times, those choices divide families, where alternatively, we could continue a life of stifling our own spirit, to maintain the connection.  Either way, there’s a cost.  The question is, what result do we seek, and are we willing to pay the appropriate price.

It was suggested to love our partners, for the relationship long outlives the term we are parents.  Children pass through our lives, partnerships are something we crave long-term, and shouldn’t be at the mercy of parenting.  There’s always a regret when we’ve lost a partner, that we could have invested more love, more time.

Although the search for true happiness and completion will never end, we must enjoy the journey while we continue to live curiously through each day, soaking up every moment with a sense of gratitude for what each moment brings.  This is possible and amplified with a Spiritual connection.  With a connection to our higher power that we truly believe in and nurture daily, we realize that life is far more than our role as mothers or children.  Spiritually connected and in tune, we know that the core of our being we are loved through all our imperfections, we are enough and that we are never ever alone.

Happy Mother’s Day!